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What? Wait, really?

Posted by: mose

Posted in: Life

Subject: XXX added you as a friend on Facebook…

XXX added you as a friend on Facebook. We need to confirm that you know XXX in order for you to be friends on Facebook.

This actually kind of floored me. What do you do when someone who was involved to a degree in almost killing you and radically altering your life in a traumatic way wants to add you on facebook out of blue? Do I ignore it and hope he goes away? Do I add him and pretend like it never happened? What doe she think is going to happen? What is he expecting out of this? Should I accept it as a sign of maturity and forgiveness? Do I forgive them? I do. I’m not sure that means I want to talk to either of them.


I’m supposed to be studying…

2 Comments to “What? Wait, really?”

  1. Gini Says:

    Whoa! That’s heavy. Um….I, personally, would allow the addition. He and she are probably curious about you and want some reassurance that you and your family are doing well, despite (or because of) this previous traumatic almost-event. Facebook is nice in that you can satisfy your curiosity about someone without being beholden to regular, or even ANY, lengthy conversations. That’s not necessarily the best thing in every circumstance, but it can certainly be best in some. Like this, for example.

    And of course, there’s always the option of deletion at a later time.

  2. your mama Says:

    hmmmmmmmm, even without you saying the name, I know who this is….The fact that they went out and looked for you by name means that they need closure. It is totally a personal decision, but I know you, you forgive them, so let them know how wonderful your life has become in spite of the accident.

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